The wellness world is full of “experts” who act like they’ve cracked the code to health, but some are merely loud voices hiding their own struggles.
I know a “doctor” with a string of degrees, yet he’s weighed down by unresolved trauma, masculine toxicity, and an ego that overshadows his expertise. He’s constantly fighting with his partner, lacks any sense of spirituality, and clings to a hyper-rational, left-brained approach as if it’s the only path to truth. Yet, he pushes his “evidence-based” opinions with unwavering confidence, bolstered by the acronyms after his name. 🤦🏻‍♀️
Imagine taking healing advice from someone who hasn’t bothered to truly heal themselves. ❌
Doctors, clinicians, and practitioners are human, just like us.
They carry biases, blind spots, and personal struggles that can cloud their judgment. When choosing someone to guide your health journey, credentials alone aren’t enough. You need to learn to read patterns, seek alignment, and prioritize those who walk the talk.
I’ve learned the hard way that healing isn’t just about degrees or fancy titles.
When I experienced a health crisis in 2020, I consulted dozens of practitioners across various fields before finding the perfect one. I realized these things mattered for me:
- Energy
- Empathy
- Expertise
- Experienced Their Own Healing
On my own journey, I preferred to work with someone who has walked the path of healing themselves. I found that I improved faster when I worked with someone who’d faced their own struggles and emerged stronger.
They get that healing isn’t a straight line. It’s messy, it’s deep, and it’s about shifting your whole self, not just slapping a fix on your symptoms.
For example, my physiotherapist, whom I saw weekly, played a massive role in my healing journey. I started seeing her for craniosacral therapy, and I could literally feel her energy flowing into me. Same with my chiropractor and acupuncturist. Just being around them made me feel better. On the other hand, I’ve worked with cold practitioners and doctors whom I simply did not connect with, and you can feel the shift.
It's an energy exchange thing. If you're sensitive to energy and know how it feels, you would understand, but if this is new to you, it may seem confusing. Don't worry, it's the part of the journey.
Many doctors excel in emergency medicine, but they often overlook the importance of self-care. They may not realize that the healing process is not linear and is not simply a matter of physical recovery, as it also involves somatic work, releasing stuck energy in the body, and trauma work.
Many doctors are well-equipped to handle emergencies— think broken bones or heart attacks. But when it comes to long-term health and longevity, many don’t understand the inner work. They don’t see that healing involves your body, mind, and even the energy trapped inside you from old wounds because they’ve never gone through it themselves.
Worse, some carry negative vibes, known as a toxic biofield, which can leave you feeling worse than before. You might walk out of their office feeling drained or stuck, as if their bad energy has rubbed off on you.
Instead of lifting you toward healing, their chaotic energy can pull you backward, amplifying your own blocks.
A practitioner’s biofield matters because it interacts with yours, and a negative one can sabotage your progress.
How to choose a practitioner who’s truly worth your trust:
1. Do They Live What They Preach?
Check if their life aligns their advice.
If they’re telling you to eat well but they’re chugging energy drinks, or preaching calm while they’re stressed out, that’s a red flag.
You wouldn’t trust a broke financial advisor with your money, so why trust a stressed-out, unhealthy clinician with your body?
Look for someone who seems healthy, balanced, and real. Their energy should feel congruent with the wisdom they share.
2. Do They Get That Healing Is Complex?
Healing isn’t just pills or diets—it’s body, mind, and soul.
A good practitioner knows this and doesn’t push a one-size-fits-all plan.
They should be open to new ideas and respect that your journey might include emotional or energy work.
3. Are They Curious and Open-Minded?
The wellness field is evolving fast, especially in longevity. A practitioner who’s dogmatic, whether they’re blindly “evidence-based” or stuck in alternative medicine dogma, may miss the bigger picture.
Seek someone who’s curious, integrates new research, and respects the interplay of science, intuition, and individual needs.
They should be humble enough to say, “I don’t know, let’s explore together.”
4. Do They Listen to You?
You want someone who listens, asks questions, and tailors their advice to you.
If they’re quick to push a standard treatment or brush off your concerns, they’re not in it for you… they’re in it for their ego.
5. Is Their Energy Uplifting?
Pay attention to how you feel around them.
Do you leave feeling lighter or heavier?
A healer who’s worked on their own issues has a positive vibe that boosts you.
Science backs this up— studies show that a practitioner’s energy can influence your pain or mood.
6. How’s Their Emotional and Spiritual Health?
Healing is multidimensional—body, mind, and spirit.
A practitioner who neglects their emotional or spiritual well-being may lack the depth to guide you holistically.
You don’t need them to be a guru. Still, they should show signs of self-awareness, emotional resilience, and a connection to something bigger than themselves, whether it’s nature, purpose, or mindfulness.
This concept is tied to the biofield—the subtle energy field that surrounds and permeates the body, believed to influence physical and emotional health. It’s like an invisible vibe that can affect how you feel and heal.
Emerging research suggests that practitioners with a strong, balanced biofield may facilitate faster healing in their clients. For instance, a 2024 study using the Bengston Energy Healing Method found bidirectional interactions between the practitioner’s brain activity and cellular responses in treated samples, indicating that the practitioner’s physiological state (potentially reflecting biofield strength) influences healing outcomes.
While more research is needed, this supports the idea that healers who have done their own inner work may have more coherent energy fields, accelerating your progress. Conversely, a practitioner with a negative or chaotic biofield can disrupt your healing, leaving you feeling stuck or worse.
7. Are They Honest About What They Don’t Know?
No one knows it all.
A trustworthy practitioner is upfront about their scope of expertise and refers you elsewhere when needed.
Beware of those who claim to have all the answers or push expensive treatments without clear justification.
Transparency builds trust; secrecy breeds skepticism.
8. Do Their Values Align with Yours?
Longevity isn’t just about living longer—it’s about living better.
Your practitioner should vibe with your values (e.g., they push aggressive interventions while you prefer natural methods), you’ll struggle to connect.
Seek someone whose philosophy resonates with your vision of health, whether that’s biohacking, holistic healing, or a blend of both.
Final Thoughts
Choosing a practitioner is like choosing a guide for a treacherous mountain climb.
You don’t just need someone with a map—you need someone who’s navigated the terrain themselves, who listens to the wind, and who knows when to pivot.
Trust your instincts, observe their actions, and prioritize those who live what they teach.
Your health is too precious to entrust to someone who’s just collecting letters after their name or whose toxic energy derails your healing.
I’ve been through this, and I would not be healed today if I didn’t have the intuition to choose the right practitioners to work with.
